Things to Text the Person You're Interested in (in Japanese of course!)
Just got the IPhone? Perfect! Because you and your phone will be best friends during the texting phase of dating in Japan. After living in Japan for a while, you must have noticed that texting is a big part of dating.
People text for days and weeks to test the water. No more good-old phone calls. People even text to set up a date. So it's important to take this texting phase very seriously.
Are you currently stuck in the texting phase? Don't worry, I will teach you some phrases* and things you can text to the person you're interested in! ;)
*Those can be used for both guys and girls.
1) Good morning!
'おはようございます' sounds a bit too polite to be used between friends or love interests. So, casual ways to say 'Good morning' which are おはよう！ or おはよー！ work great here.
Since Japanese people don't say "Hi", you should try to differentiate greetings based on time. You can use おはよう！until 10:30 to 11 AM. and こんばんは （Good evening）starts peeking out around 5:30 to 6PM.
2) It's so cold (hot) today!
kyou sugoi samui (atsui) ne!
Like many other cultures, Japanese love to talk about weather. It's a great conversation starter as weather changes quite often in Japan. If it looks like it's going to rain, maybe you can remind each other to bring an umbrella （傘 ・ かさ ・ kasa.）
3) How was your day? How was work?
kyou ichinichi dou datta? Kyou shigoto dou datta?
"Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow."
Asking this shows that you care about what's happening in the other person's life.
4) What are you doing this weekend? Do you have any plans this weekend? Are you free this weekend?
konshuu nani shiteruno? konshuu nanika yotei aru? konshuu hima?
Great way to lead yourself to asking someone out on a date!
5) Would you like to go on a date with me this weekend?
konshuu de-to ikimasenka? konshuu de-to ikanai?
If the word "date" is a bit too intimidating, you can just ask:
(konshuu dokoka ikimasenka?)
which is 'Would you like to go somewhere?' If it isn't a date, less pressure, right? :)
6) Take care.
Both 気をつけてand お大事に translate into 'Take care', but their meanings are different, so 気をつけて。
気をつけてis more like 'be careful' or 'have a safe trip/flight.' On the other hand お大事に is only used towards someone who is sick. So if your boo is leaving for Fukuoka on a bullet train（新幹線・しんかんせん・shinkansen）you say 気をつけて. But if he/she got a cold and is sick in bed, you say お大事に. Got it?
7) Sorry, my phone died.
gomen, keitai no dengen kirechatta.
When texting someone you are interested in, timing and how quickly you reply come into play. If you were in the middle of a good conversation and your phone got hungry decided to die, make sure you let him/her know. Nobody wants to be left hanging.
8) Good Night
（おやすみ） Remember: They say that happy couples say to each other good night, every night. Being an Emoji expert is crucial when it comes to texting phase of dating in Japan. Lack of emoji means lack of interest. Japanese girls might ask you "are you upset or something?' if you texts aren't covered with hearts and winking faces. On the other hand, if you're not getting any of these cut little images in return, you need to start texting some of the above phrases to get her attention quick! Yes we know, Dating in Japan is hard!
The power of Emoji)（絵文字・えもじ）
Remember: They say that happy couples say to each other good night, every night.
Being an Emoji expert is crucial when it comes to texting phase of dating in Japan. Lack of emoji means lack of interest. Japanese girls might ask you "are you upset or something?' if you texts aren't covered with hearts and winking faces. On the other hand, if you're not getting any of these cut little images in return, you need to start texting some of the above phrases to get her attention quick!
Yes we know, Dating in Japan is hard!